The Secret to being happy?




“Repression is not the way to virtue. When people restrain themselves out of fear, their lives are by necessity diminished. Only through freely chosen discipline can life be enjoyed and still kept within the bounds of reason.”
Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi, Flow: The Psychology of Optimal Experience, 1990

Is “freely chosen discipline” truly the way to be happy and if so; Does freely chosen discipline actually exist in current times?

Can we as humans be happy?

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8 Responses to “The Secret to being happy?”

  1. Happiness? Satisfaction? Impossible. No such thing’!

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  2. I think the key part of the quote is that people’s lives are diminished if they restrain themselves out of fear. So choosing self-disipline not out of the motivation of a possible negative consequence, but out of the possibility or guarentee of joy (or whatever it is that people seek in life) is not a form of restraint; it is choice. Kind of like how absolute freedom actually binds by self reflection, by discerning less possibilities through ‘good’ choices, people generically tend to be happier. So, yes and no. Like any concept that theoretically sounds…well, sound…there is a lacking of ‘freely chosen discipline’ and/or an excess of ‘freely chosen discipline’.
    Have a great spring break. Unless you don’t want to.

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  3. The Science Argumentation (A.K.A. Homework over spring break) is on mreldridge.net under the tab “Rhetoric”. Just in case anyone was looking for it.

    http://mreldridge.net/Rhetoric.aspx

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  4. “Can we as humans be happy?”

    Yes.

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  5. I agree with Anthony’s point-blank response. Yes, we as humans can be happy. Happiness and satisfaction do exist. I think that the culture of American society makes it a little difficult for US to experience it though. Mrs. Levine calls it the “microwave generation”. We want what we want, we want it now, and we want it without any effort put forth by us. Example:commercials. God forbid we have to work hard to obtain the perfect abs, when we should be able to get them in two weeks or our money back. Our society is constantly chasing perfection. Note: “happy” does not equal “perfect”.

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  6. Being happy doesn’t depend on the situation or ourselves, but instead upon our perspective of the situation and of ourselves.

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  7. Why should we be happy? Isn’t it more interesting to be melancholy? Don’t some of our most creative, thoughtful moments come from a deep and patient unhappiness? Is not some of the most true, most American music the Blues?

    I say we should praise sorrow. Live out our melancholy. Read AGAINST HAPPINESS: IN PRAISE OF MELANCHOLY (just published on FSG).

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  8. ok so i think that happy is a personal thing and what i have been learning is that it is more dependent on who you are and how you accpet yourself, and sometimes in doing such you become happier or you find out how to be happy. ie, if your self detramental to be happy there is a lot of work you must do to fix yourself. to be happy with anything in life personal accpetance is necessary. or at least that is what i have been told.

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